Laugh Through the Mess

Before you roll your eyes during your next argument, try rolling into laughter instead. Dr. Gina Barreca says humor isn’t about ignoring pain—it’s how we face it without losing each other. When we can laugh—really laugh—at our shared humanity, we remind ourselves: “We’re on the same team, even when life gets ridiculous.”

Laughter lowers defensiveness, interrupts shame, and helps us see our partner not as the enemy, but as a fellow traveler through life’s absurd moments. You can’t fake connection—but you can spark it with a shared grin.

Action Tip:

When tension starts to rise this week, say or do one thing to make your spouse smile. A wink. A goofy face. A funny memory. You’re not dismissing the problem—you’re disarming it with love.

Because sometimes the smartest way to reconnect… is to laugh first.

Tune into Episodes 101 and 102 (releases Friday) of Marriage IQ to learn more!

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