Stop Astroturfing Love

Astroturf looks great from a distance—perfect, polished, flawless. But get close, and you realize it has no roots. Many couples unintentionally do the same thing: they present a happy, put-together marriage to the world while avoiding the harder, deeper conversations at home.

It’s human. It’s common. And it’s dangerous.

Even celebrity couples who appear deeply connected can be quietly struggling. The truth? Every marriage has stale or stinky parts… and scintillating parts. Avoiding the real stuff doesn’t protect the relationship—it starves it.

Authenticity doesn’t mean oversharing or being raw 100% of the time. It means being rooted. It means knowing what you feel, saying what matters, and staying curious about each other—even when it’s uncomfortable.

Action Tip:

Tonight, ask your spouse one sincere question: “Is there anything you’ve been holding back because you weren’t sure how I’d respond?”
Then listen to understand—not to fix.

Tune into Episodes 109 of Marriage IQ to learn more! (There won’t be a second episode this week.)

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