Depression Lies to You

It’s the thought that wakes you up at 3 AM.

It’s the numbness you feel when you look at the person you promised to spend your life with, and instead of love, you just feel… nothing. Or worse, you feel trapped.

When you’re in the thick of it, your brain starts connecting dots that shouldn’t be connected. You start thinking, “Maybe we just don’t work anymore.” “Maybe I married the wrong person.” “Maybe this heavy, gray feeling is just my life now.”

I need you to hear me on this: That voice in your head might be lying to you.

Depression is a thief. It doesn't just steal your energy; it steals your perspective. It puts a filter over your marriage that makes temporary struggles look like permanent failures. It convinces you that your partner is the enemy, when really, the enemy is the chemistry in your brain.

In this week’s video, we aren’t just talking about "coping." We are calling out the specific lies depression uses to sabotage relationships, and how to tell the difference between a dying marriage and a depressed brain.

Weekly Action Tip:

When you are depressed (or loving someone who is), everything feels like a fight. It’s easy to start fighting each other because you’re both just so tired.

This week, we want you to change the battle lines.

The next time a conflict comes up—whether it's about dishes, distance, or a misunderstood tone—stop and say this out loud to your partner:

"I’m feeling really heavy right now. Can we agree that it’s us against the heavy, not me against you?"

You don't have to fix the mood. You don't have to force happiness. You just have to remind each other that you are on the same side of the wall.

[Link: Watch the Full Episode Here]

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