Touch, Look, Pray
I got a text from a client today saying, “I’m failing again! My wife feels neglected and ignored.”
He has been working LONG hours. Has a big yard to care for. And responsibilities at church and in the community.
He asked me for three or four small, simple things he could start focusing on to help his marriage.
I chuckled inside as I thought of our Marriage iQ 2-part series highlighting Dr. Arthur Brooks’ research on what happy couples have in common. The timing was perfect!
Just four simple steps to increase happiness.
Last week’s episode focused on the first one… play and fun!
We’ve got to admit… we are so much happier when we are intentional about planning fun! In our Couple’s Councils we have scheduled fun things like an upcoming trip to the Dallas Arboretum to see tulips, pedicures, going hiking, and playing Scrabble.
Today we are revealing three more research-backed and easy happiness tips:
praying (or meditating) together
always be touching (ABT)
and looking in each others eyes
In this episode, Scott admits to something he hasn’t publicly revealed before. So tune in to this week’s episode to learn his secret, and to explore with us the science behind why these happiness tips work. Get our recommendations for best success and join our 30-day challenge.
Praying together every day has been a ritual for us for 30-years. And with lots of practice we are learning to look into each others’ eyes. But we both acknowledge that we love physical touch and don’t get enough of it. Bingo! That is what we need to work on this week! How about you?
Action Tip:
Take time to talk with your spouse about your past experiences with prayer, touch, and eye-gazing.
Which one (if any) has helped you feel most connected to each other?
Are there any you feel uncomfortable with? Why?
Which one do you each need more of?
Choose one to work on this week, and create a plan to make it happen.
Pay attention—do you feel more seen, heard, valued, and connected after doing at least one of these every day this week?
Remember…
happiness in marriage is not a destination, but a skill to be built through daily habits and intentional choices.
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