Feeling Chosen Again

With Valentines Day over, do you feel like you have filled the romance quota for the year?

Please tell me no!

This year, Scott and I were intentional about planning lots of new and exciting events in the days leading up to and after Valentines. But I already feel some of the magic and romance dissipating as we settle back into our routine.

If your marriage feels more like a shared calendar than a love story, you’re not alone. We are busy too!

In a conversation with proposal expert Ash Fox (who has planned over 3,000 romantic moments), she said something simple but powerful: romance doesn’t disappear — it gets replaced by logistics.

Kids. Work. Groceries. Exhaustion.

But here’s what keeps love electric: intention. Someone deciding to create a moment.

Romance thrives on polarity — one person taking the lead, creating anticipation, being just a little bold. It’s attractive when your spouse feels chosen. Pursued. Thought about.

And no, this doesn’t require a castle or fireworks. It requires presence.

Action Tip:

Plan one intentional romantic moment — and don’t crowdsource it.

Choose the restaurant. Create or choose the playlist. Light the candles at your own dinner table. Write the note. Make the plan and follow through.

Then watch what happens when your spouse feels pursued instead of managed.

Because thriving marriages aren’t accidental.
They’re designed.

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