The Fair Fight Formula

Ever feel stuck in the same fight on repeat? You’re not alone—and you’re not failing.

Robert and Sharla Snow from Master Your Marriage remind us that gridlock in marriage isn’t about the topic—it’s about what’s underneath it. When we dig deeper, most recurring arguments stem from core values that feel threatened.

Instead of trying to "win" the fight, shift into curiosity. Ask your partner:

• “What’s really important to you about this?”

• “What are you afraid might happen?”

• “Where could we both flex just a little?”

Fighting fair isn’t about avoiding conflict—it’s about turning conflict into connection by honoring both people’s values.

Next time you're stuck, pause and say, “Let’s find the dream within this disagreement.” It’s not about compromise—it’s about collaboration.

Because fair fights don’t have winners. They have teammates.

Action Tip:

Next time you're stuck, pause and say, “Let’s find the dream within this disagreement.” It’s not about compromise—it’s about collaboration.

Because fair fights don’t have winners. They have teammates.

Tune into Episode 70 of Marriage IQ to learn more!

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