The Forgiveness Paradox

In every marriage, there's a paradox we all face: the very thing that allows us to feel deeply connected—vulnerability—is also what makes us most likely to get hurt.

When we open our hearts, share our fears, or rely on our spouse emotionally, we risk disappointment, conflict, or even betrayal. But without that openness, intimacy can't exist. This is the paradox of love: the deeper the connection, the greater the risk.

That’s why forgiveness isn’t just a virtue—it’s a relationship skill. Over the course of a lifetime together, you will hurt each other. And without forgiveness, those wounds pile up, eventually closing the door to closeness.

Action Tip:

Next time your partner says or does something that stings, pause. Instead of reacting with defensiveness or shutting down, ask yourself: Is this hurt something I can let go of? Practicing micro-forgiveness—small, quiet acts of grace—can keep your relationship open, connected, and resilient.

Tune into Episode 72of Marriage IQ to learn more!

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