Holy Doesn’t Mean Easy

Many couples quietly believe a comforting myth: If we live righteously, our marriage will be protected from pain.

It sounds beautiful—and it’s partly true. Living by moral or spiritual values can absolutely guide how we love, forgive, and stay grounded when life gets hard.

But here’s the truth: morality isn’t immunity.
Faith doesn’t guarantee a marriage free from betrayal, infertility, addiction, or disconnection. It gives you a compass, not a force field.

Heidi’s research on betrayal revealed that even deeply faithful couples face heartbreak. What set the resilient ones apart wasn’t perfection—it was courage. They brought their values into the repair process instead of using them as proof they should’ve been protected from pain.

Action Tip:

This week, when a struggle arises—big or small—pause and ask:

“Am I using my faith as a shield from pain, or as a compass to walk through it?”

Your values aren’t meant to keep storms away; they’re meant to help you navigate them—together.

Tune into Episodes 91 and 92 of Marriage IQ to learn more!

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